15. Rav Twersky asserted that two of the four presenters actually spoke about actual Mishcav Zachar.
Response: This is either an absurd fabrication, a gross misreading of the text, an unfortunate delusion, or an outright lie. Mishcav Zachar, as interpreted by the Talmud and Rishonim, is clearly the act of anal intercourse. No one on the panel spoke about, referred to, or even brought up this act. The transcripts and videos are transparent and speak for themselves. Please look up the videos on vimeo.com under the words "YU gaypanel." The assumption of the panel was that this act is explicitly forbidden and must be refrained from. There is no place in any of our words that would lead one to assume that any panelist took part in such an activity. I assume that Rav Twersky made a terribly careless error here, because the alternative is blatant Motzi Shem Ra about fellow Jews, which would actually be a gross Chillul HaShem!
Seeing as this point 15 is the reason I wrote my posts (To Deserve and To Sacrifice, The Courage of Yeshiva University: A Feast Unto the Lord) in response to the event, I think I will clarify what precisely it is that I believe the rabbanim are referring to. I was at the event and I'm the one who typed up the unofficial transcript and I noticed these points, so it would stand to reason the rabbanim did, too.
1. Jonathan stated: "And then I thought to myself, not only was this unfair to them but also unfair to me. I also deserve to be loved and craved."
He also stated, "What does this mean for their [his parents'] reputation? But I reasoned that even if it took them 5 years to be okay with it that hopefully by the time I get to my late 20s if I found a guy and want to build a life with him, hopefully my parents will accept him and celebrate smachot with him and go about the minutiae of life with him."
2. Mordechai stated: "Everything clicked at that point. I thought of what my ex-girlfriend said and it finally made sense. And maybe Briskers and Litvaks need to learn it made another kind of sense- in my neshama. What I knew was morally right and fit into the mold of yahadus. I need to find, I need to be true, I need to look at the metzius in my life and learn how to make the mundane holy. But you can’t change the metzius. And I’m going over [he means over the time limit] probably. Yes."
(Now, let's review what his ex-girlfriend told him, namely: " I need someone who makes me feel attractive, like I’m the most attractive person in the world and you do, too.”)
He also said: " We’re not parading being gay. None of us talked about anything we do in the bedroom. That’s private. And I don’t talk about anybody with that except the person- whatever."
Mordechai, Jonathan spoke about potentially finding a man to spend the rest of his life with. He stated that he deserves to be loved and craved by a man. You spoke about your ex-girlfriend's words regarding the fact that you should find and you deserve a man who loves you as 'making sense within your neshama' and fitting into 'the mold of yahadus.' You also insinuated that you have a partner when you stated that you don't speak about whatever it is you do in the bedroom except with that person. Both of these statements suggest that you and Jonathan plan to lead or do lead lives in which you break the halakha regarding homosexuality. So indeed, two of the panelists spoke about actual mishkav zachor. Perhaps you did not get into details, but you definitely implied that leading a life in which you break this halakha is in the cards. R' Mayer Twersky did not, as you thought, make a terribly careless error. Rather, he read this transcript very carefully and he caught the allusions you perhaps did not.
An event that was wholly about sensitivity, reaching out and empathizing with those undergoing a terrible struggle is perfectly fine. However, an event in which panelists insinuate that the halakha is wrong, unfair, not something they plan to keep or not something they are currently keeping is of a different tenor entirely. At Wurzweiler, such a discussion would be perfectly appropriate. As an event sponsored in part by an undergraduate club of Yeshiva University, however, it is not. In that respect, R' Mayer Twerksy's point was totally justified.