You see this in little kids. They will run out of the house screaming "I'm running away" and then hang out outside waiting for someone to chase after them.
My mom said that when I was 5 I announced I was running away. My dad followed me at a discrete distance when I left the house. Eventually I returned and announced that I came back because "a scary man was following me."
People do this simply because they do not know a better way. We use all sorts of ineffective and counterproductive strategies to try to get what we need or want from other people. You might want to look into books on communication for couples if you're really curious. This one is pretty good.
December 12: Hanicha Li December 13: running away in order to be found. December 15: MR says, "When the patooties are we playing??? Are you done working yet? C'mon, Chana! Moooommmm.... Make her play with me! Well, tomorrow, I mean."
some run away because they are scared, and want to be found to feel safe. others run away because they are (already) lost and don't know what else to do;for them the hope of being found is the hope to have the answer find them (instead of going to find the answer). There is a saying, losely translated as "wherever I go, I am on my way to Israel." This is not just a zionist tagline, it's a lesson: we are always leaving something or someplace but its just as important to always be headed somewhere...in this case I'll be so bold as to say where our hearts and our homes are.
This brings to mind a bunch of old Peanuts strips. :-)
Probably more people have thought this than done it. Haven't you ever thought, in a sour moment, "Well, what if I would just DIE! Then they'd be sorry!"
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You see this in little kids. They will run out of the house screaming "I'm running away" and then hang out outside waiting for someone to chase after them.
I guess some people never grow out of it.
It reminds me that some people run away while some conceal themselves.
we all need validation.
I understand where that comes from.
How might one adult distinguish between a second adult running away in order to be pursued and running away because they're not interested?
My mom said that when I was 5 I announced I was running away. My dad followed me at a discrete distance when I left the house. Eventually I returned and announced that I came back because "a scary man was following me."
when you've been treated a certain way, it makes perfect sense.
I can admit to having done this before.
People do this simply because they do not know a better way. We use all sorts of ineffective and counterproductive strategies to try to get what we need or want from other people. You might want to look into books on communication for couples if you're really curious. This one is pretty good.
December 12: Hanicha Li
December 13: running away in order to be found.
December 15: MR says, "When the patooties are we playing??? Are you done working yet? C'mon, Chana! Moooommmm.... Make her play with me! Well, tomorrow, I mean."
some run away because they are scared, and want to be found to feel safe.
others run away because they are (already) lost and don't know what else to do;for them the hope of being found is the hope to have the answer find them (instead of going to find the answer).
There is a saying, losely translated as "wherever I go, I am on my way to Israel." This is not just a zionist tagline, it's a lesson: we are always leaving something or someplace but its just as important to always be headed somewhere...in this case I'll be so bold as to say where our hearts and our homes are.
This brings to mind a bunch of old Peanuts strips. :-)
Probably more people have thought this than done it. Haven't you ever thought, in a sour moment, "Well, what if I would just DIE! Then they'd be sorry!"
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