Suppose that your friend defies all precedent and informs you, "It wouldn't be fair of me to take out my frustration on someone who doesn't deserve it. Then I would just be angrier at myself later." This despite the fact that you are completely willing to be the scapegoat.
Is this not the most incredible person?! How many people do you know who could control their anger that well?
I like to sing people's praises when they deserve praise; at the moment I feel quite like shouting this out to everyone I know. The fact that such a person even exists makes my day about a million times better. I can't get it off my mind, so I figured I might as well write about it.
A related idea, and one which also applies to my friend:
- "That gimcrack style is her way of admitting to your Mamma that she herself knows that not a word of what she says is true. Really it is wonderful to see how this simple mind has developed this device for protecting itself from despair. But more complicated minds do not enjoy such protection. Thought that is worth calling thought has no mercy on itself, that is the dreadful proof of its quality."
~The Fountain Overflows, page 334
I think this is uniquely applicable here. Thought that is worth calling thought has no mercy on itself; that is the dreadful proof of its quality. The same applies to a value system that is worth calling a value system, morals that are worth calling morals, and a person who quite probably sincerely wishes that he could blame someone else but who doesn't believe it to be fair.
How am I so lucky as to know all these amazing people?!