I watched a film recently and the following questions came to mind.
What would you do if you were a girl in love with a boy who was in love with a different girl?
Alternatively, what would you do if you were a boy in love with a girl who was in love with a different boy?
Let's assume the boy or girl you loved agreed to go out with you, maybe even consider you seriously, but they can't shake the fact that they are still in love with someone else.
What do you do then? Is that enough to live on? Suppose one day you go off and settle in Hollywood bliss- but you know your husband is still in love with a different woman, even if he also cares about you.
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IMO life is just too short for unrequited love. Let him/her go and find one of the other 3 billion members of your preferred gender to fall in love with.
Well, JA, that would lead us to another question (and I open this up to discussion for all): do you believe in soulmates?
Hope that the person will lose the love for other and begin just to love you.
Soulmates: Yes, but we're constantly changing, and our goals and core views change with us. The vague concept of some perfect person amongst the billions ignores the immediacy and specificity of daily life. Rather, say that within your sphere of interaction, and based on who you are at that moment, there is someone uniquely suited to you.
Thus there isn't one single soulmate, but an endless changing procession of them. When you're fortunate enough to encounter your current soulmate you link up and, instead of growing apart (each becoming soulmates for someone else,) you then grow together, and stay soulmates for life.
As for the first two questions, I consider it an essential property in a mate that they truly love you (above all others) in return. Not just that I couldn't enter into a serious commitment with someone who didn't like/love me in the same way, but that if they didn't reciprocate those feelings they wouldn't be the person I was looking for.
I don't believe in soulmates, no, although obviously some people are much more compatible than others.
Soulmate:
•Someone with whom one has a special, almost spiritual connection
en.wiktionary.org/wiki/soulmate
•A soulmate is somebody with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility. ...
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soulmate
Yes, I believe in soulmates who aim to grow together and stay together for life.
Mostly agree with Adam.
Alternatively, what would you do if you were a boy in love with a girl who was in love with a different boy?
I would force myself to move on, however difficult. The alternative chase is even worse and will lead to constant unhappiness. If you're not #1 in your significant other's eyes (and always, not just when they're around you), there is something seriously amiss in the relationship by definition.
Let's assume the boy or girl you loved agreed to go out with you, maybe even consider you seriously, but they can't shake the fact that they are still in love with someone else.
This is slightly different, essentially being on the opposite side in a way. I would want the other person to work on shaking their other feelings before being willing to commit to a serious relationship. Without the ability to view me as priority, there would be something lacking in the relationship.
whats love
but a second hand emotion....
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