Tuesday, April 26, 2011

The Lady in the Yellow Gown

One year ago today, I got engaged.

So I figure now is as good a time as any to take stock.

What I've learned over the course of this year is that marriage is hard.

There's an idea within the Orthodox Jewish world (perhaps it is not limited to this group) that after one marries, one ought to expect bonanzas of wedded bliss. Everything will be joyful, covered in flowers and dusted with rose petals.

And they're not wrong on at least two of those accounts. My wedding (and house) sparkles with flowers and the aisle I walked down was certainly dusted with rose petals.

But joy takes work.

Married life requires adjustments. It's stressful. Difficult, frustrating, at times even daunting. It's complicated to live with another person. Despite this, it's also worth it.

L'Chaim and may we be blessed with a lifetime of happiness in return for our hard work.



Irina Tsukerman said...

I'm surprised people EVER have that assumption considering that most people grow up in families and see how hard their parents have to work on resolving various issues, etc. It's like once people move out on their own their memory of being in a family is wiped clean. *shaking head*

Unknown said...

congratulations for your bravery and hard work!

Sisterbear said...

Mazal U'bracha!

Ezzie said...

Amen. Continued hatzlacha.

Shira said...

Do you think marriage may be harder for you since you hadn't been dating him long before marrying your husband?