tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post565543974726480357..comments2024-03-18T03:40:39.185-04:00Comments on The Curious Jew: In Which Chana Meets A Gallant Potential RapistChanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17655144434904957767noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-41184257524695145562008-10-01T20:09:00.000-04:002008-10-01T20:09:00.000-04:00Uh, but now that I read the comments: Yeah, that w...Uh, but now that I read the comments: <BR/><BR/><BR/>Yeah, that wasn't safe, Chana. Don't do that again. :) (uh.... Did I just say that? I second Scraps on this one entirely)Mindy Schaperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10561579952913345322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-60045051619338633932008-10-01T20:02:00.000-04:002008-10-01T20:02:00.000-04:00This sounds like somethng that I would get myself ...This sounds like somethng that I would get myself into. (see time spent on subways, if I ever write about that)<BR/><BR/>I think you behaved very well, Chana. Who knows how much you impacted him???Mindy Schaperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10561579952913345322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-83016770742752666422008-09-28T17:20:00.000-04:002008-09-28T17:20:00.000-04:00I had a very similar encounter at a bus stop at ni...I had a very similar encounter at a bus stop at night in Yerushalayim when I was a sem girl, over thirty years ago. The guy was good-looking, well-dressed, made polite conversation and turned out to be an Arab. I was so naive. My Hebrew wasn't good enough for me to realize that he had an accent, until he told me. Suddenly he's groping and suddenly there isn't a soul around. I said to myself, "I am going to die right here and right now but he is not going to take me anywhere." And I ran faster than I've ever run, and screamed at the top of my lungs. B'H the guy took off. Of course I was not halachically required to give up my life, I was a single girl, but there was some level at which I knew, my life is over if this guy gets his way. I had some kind of post-traumatic stress for months after this incident, spooked at everything. It was the most frightening thing that ever happened to me, even though, actually, /nothing/ happened to me. B'H you were OK and your instincts guided you to safety. I learned back then that no place is safe for a young girl alone at night. Normally I never post comments anonymously but this time I am going to, because even after all these years I still feel a bit ashamed that I was so naive to make small talk with an Arab guy at a bus stop.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-5922853273567098942008-09-25T21:10:00.000-04:002008-09-25T21:10:00.000-04:00Sigh...I'd lecture you, except you've heard enough...Sigh...I'd lecture you, except you've heard enough lecturing, and I doubt it's going to make you change your wandering ways (has it ever before?). Not to mention, while I've never gotten into a conversation with a drunk guy at some ungodly hour of the night, I've done plenty of stupid things in my day so I'm not really one to talk.<BR/><BR/>Just stay safe, Chana.Scrapshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15911315552965685448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-10952628792893999342008-09-24T08:24:00.000-04:002008-09-24T08:24:00.000-04:00honey, u manage to repel ppl every day of ur life,...honey, u manage to repel ppl every day of ur life, and the time it actually matters, you can't do it. honestly.<BR/>u should tell security. they are ur friend. ppl told security about homeless guys grabbing their ass and i think a bartender following u home qualifies. just watch, he'll wanna apologize.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-68595741152287173712008-09-24T00:46:00.000-04:002008-09-24T00:46:00.000-04:00Everyone else said everything but this: What a won...Everyone else said everything but this: What a wonderful piece of writing!!!MYGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09510670684474219811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-48583503923926785322008-09-24T00:35:00.000-04:002008-09-24T00:35:00.000-04:00oh man..i woulda had a nervous breakdown!Good job ...oh man..i woulda had a nervous breakdown!<BR/><BR/>Good job not having one~!frumskeptichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02990363895869876238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-34729792094063901272008-09-23T23:46:00.000-04:002008-09-23T23:46:00.000-04:00Well, not really a “potential” rapist because if h...Well, not really a “potential” rapist because if he had any intention of raping you, he would have tried.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-60162701836317912112008-09-23T18:39:00.000-04:002008-09-23T18:39:00.000-04:00Seriously - really careless of you.Seriously - really careless of you.the applehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04756184353010645018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-90715621475688342172008-09-23T15:16:00.000-04:002008-09-23T15:16:00.000-04:00If the person you are talking to doesn't appear to...If the person you are talking to doesn't appear to be listening, be patient. It may simply be that he has a small piece of fluff in his ear.<BR/>-- Winnie the PoohAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-21855090669795391912008-09-23T15:11:00.000-04:002008-09-23T15:11:00.000-04:00omg, Chana.that was not cool.omg, Chana.<BR/>that was not cool.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-90410535509644581392008-09-23T14:33:00.000-04:002008-09-23T14:33:00.000-04:00"Lord, what fools these mortals be! " ~William Sha..."Lord, what fools these mortals be! "<BR/> ~William Shakespeare<BR/><BR/>OK,don't EVER do this again! And I don't care if you are down,need fresh air and such. Use those lovely brains of yours and find a different,more suitable outlet for thinking and relaxation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-65237650537162298072008-09-23T14:19:00.000-04:002008-09-23T14:19:00.000-04:00Are the slichot said at night in the AM, with a mi...Are the slichot said at night in the AM, with a minyan of men?<BR/>KT<BR/>Joel RichAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-10931306229833314922008-09-23T13:28:00.000-04:002008-09-23T13:28:00.000-04:00Okay, a couple things:A) I do not look like, nor w...Okay, a couple things:<BR/><BR/>A) I do not look like, nor was I wearing anything of the sort that one providing services of that type wears (unless oversized sweatshirts and blue Ugg slippers count.)<BR/><BR/>B) So he knows where I live; it's okay- I know where he works. "Third and Long," the bar which is located, oh, right near me. The Irish Catholic bartender will probably not scare me ever again. Hurrah.Chanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17655144434904957767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-73864876135690983512008-09-23T12:51:00.000-04:002008-09-23T12:51:00.000-04:00Chana,you may want to call your parents about this...Chana,you may want to call your parents about this,especially your mother. I believe this will disturb them greatly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-38038000611789256032008-09-23T12:40:00.000-04:002008-09-23T12:40:00.000-04:00"He now knows where you live." Take advantage of ..."He now knows where you live." Take advantage of your status as a Stern Dorm resident, and make sure the Stern security guard knows about this guy. And for heaven's sake, don't go sitting on any more public benches at 1 AM! I hate to say this, but it's possible that the man in question may originally have assumed that you were, to put it as delicately as possible, there to do "business," and/or, since you were singing alone in public at 1 AM, as drunk as he was. *Please* be more careful about what appearance you present in public--as you've just learned the hard way, giving the wrong impression can be deleterious to your personal safety.Shira Salamonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15989302669175887512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-3157435746485636942008-09-23T11:23:00.000-04:002008-09-23T11:23:00.000-04:00You should be scared!He now knows where you live....You should be scared!<BR/>He now knows where you live.<BR/>Do exercise CAUTION at all times!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-74147367024729481432008-09-23T10:49:00.000-04:002008-09-23T10:49:00.000-04:00Chana, follow these tips ALWAYS:Listen to your ins...Chana, follow these tips ALWAYS:<BR/><BR/>Listen to your instincts. If you find yourself thinking that a situation just isn’t quite right or that a person seems disingenuous, chances are good that you might be right. Your instinctive feelings are meant to keep you out of harms way, to try to pay attention to what they’re telling you. <BR/><BR/>Be alert. When walking through even crowded streets make sure to keep an eye out for anyone that could be following you or appears to be behaving abnormally. If you feel uncomfortable, get out of the situation immediately, don’t wait until it’s too late to do something. <BR/><BR/>Don’t worry about overreacting. If you feel unsafe or that you’re under attack, don’t worry about running, screaming, or getting out of a situation as quickly as possible. It’s better to look foolish than to end up getting hurt by a less than friendly native. <BR/><BR/>Maintain your personal space. Stay alert! If a person moves inside your comfort zone, move away. If that person persists, run.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-16256327426298780122008-09-23T10:19:00.000-04:002008-09-23T10:19:00.000-04:00anonymous 10:16,Actually, I figured out pretty qui...anonymous 10:16,<BR/><BR/>Actually, I figured out pretty quickly that if I ran, that was when he would move. Every time I seemed to walk faster he got an uglynasty expression on, so I realized this was a different type of situation. But yes, under other circumstances, you are right. <BR/><BR/>everyone else,<BR/><BR/>I know, I know, and I'll be good from now on! and dman, don't not send your daughter to Stern because of this; I'll feel bad about it. And they do have organized Selichot.Chanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17655144434904957767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-42493681627854013802008-09-23T10:18:00.000-04:002008-09-23T10:18:00.000-04:00I'm from Revel, not SCW :)I'm from Revel, not SCW :)rivkayaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06509357690398313014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-63788650257300332742008-09-23T10:16:00.000-04:002008-09-23T10:16:00.000-04:00Chana, If you are ever in a similar situation, RUN...Chana, <BR/>If you are ever in a similar situation, RUN. <BR/><BR/>You have no idea how fortunate you are. That this was only some depressed slightly drunk man. It could have been a lot worse, and your decision to slow down and allow him to walk with you, could have cost you a lot more. <BR/><BR/>I don't want to lecture you, but there is no need to be polite in this kind of situation. I know it feels terrible not to shake someone's hand, or to ignore them when they ask you a question. But that's ok. Just stand up and GET OUT. <BR/><BR/>Stay Safe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-51642452558836846662008-09-23T10:11:00.000-04:002008-09-23T10:11:00.000-04:00rivkayael wrote:I had a similar encounter when goi...rivkayael wrote:<BR/><I>I had a similar encounter when going home from slichot at a UES shul. No more will I take for granted that Park Avenue is safe at 11:30 pm.</I><BR/><BR/>SCW doesn't have organized Selichot for its students?Dorron Katzinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08275399228339470400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-59097190024302446642008-09-23T10:07:00.000-04:002008-09-23T10:07:00.000-04:00I had a similar encounter when going home from sli...I had a similar encounter when going home from slichot at a UES shul. No more will I take for granted that Park Avenue is safe at 11:30 pm.<BR/><BR/>Unlike you, I sprinted. The person was walking in my direction, and I was so scared that he was going to block me or something. NYC is full of screamers, so I don't think anyone would have taken me seriously anyway.rivkayaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06509357690398313014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-10668165210486742292008-09-23T09:38:00.000-04:002008-09-23T09:38:00.000-04:00I had the same thought that "another parent" had. ...I had the same thought that "another parent" had. I'm not one of your parents and it frightened me.<BR/><BR/>I have a daughter in 11th grade who wants to go to SCW. Now I'm having second thoughts!Dorron Katzinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08275399228339470400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-34804209094505238682008-09-23T09:17:00.000-04:002008-09-23T09:17:00.000-04:00" I am the only one solo in this cafeI am the only..." I am the only one solo in this cafe<BR/>I am the only one writing about their faces....<BR/><BR/>Chana,some of us are aware that you like the night,you like to think while in darkness. But venturing out SOLO is the wrong solution to feeling down. Please take everyone's advice and keep safe!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com