tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post3419885832354498503..comments2024-03-18T03:40:39.185-04:00Comments on The Curious Jew: Singlehood (Part 1)Chanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17655144434904957767noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-85063871220129960102012-02-12T21:54:00.042-05:002012-02-12T21:54:00.042-05:00There is a common deception that Joshua Harris is ...There is a common deception that Joshua Harris is against dating! this is not the case. Granted the title of the book implies it and turns some readers off, there is a fear of condemnation about their current relaationship. But actually it reinforces the conclusion I have come to about dating 'dont date unless you are ready for commitment.Italiahttp://safetyprecautionkids.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-19632059490548576052011-05-19T07:56:26.853-04:002011-05-19T07:56:26.853-04:00Isn't there a slippery slope problem here? Th...Isn't there a slippery slope problem here? That is, if you think of singleness as a time to focus on plesaing God, why bother to end it? Or do anything (like dating) that might end it? <br /><br />Also, I worry that the whole argument flows out of the Christian idea that celibacy really is a good thing.Woodrow/Conservadoxhttp://bol1923@yahoo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-92214157189813774212011-05-16T12:16:17.317-04:002011-05-16T12:16:17.317-04:00Do you think you would have waited longer to get m...Do you think you would have waited longer to get married? Had you understood this about singlehood and met Heshy, what would you have done: gotten married as quickly as you did or waited?Moshehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11651270601906886319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-37359930628198566232011-05-16T03:51:20.179-04:002011-05-16T03:51:20.179-04:00I believe that whatever situation we are in, we ar...I believe that whatever situation we are in, we are meant to be in. If we are single at the moment, then that is our purpose at the moment. Once we do what we need to do, then we move to the next purpose which is marriage. <br /><br />While we are single, we should get the most out of life during this time. Learn and grow. And feel good we used the time wiselysmbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00425290796472256844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-49164250823628438542011-05-15T16:02:10.060-04:002011-05-15T16:02:10.060-04:00"His book addresses the topics of yichud, tzn..."His book addresses the topics of yichud, tznius and shomer negiah in a really loving, relatable way. He comes across as your companion, in the same situations that you are in, rather than an authority figure."<br /><br />There might be something for dealing with these topics in terms of psychology combined with Torah sources. I saw this point in a recent article(linked below): <br /><br />"Other schools set clearer boundaries for students. Rabbi Dov Linzer, dean of the liberal Orthodox Yeshivat Chovevei Torah Rabbinical School, said that the faculty recognizes the challenge of observing halachic sexual prohibitions, and has students study with sex therapists and psychiatrists in addition to rabbis. Even so, Linzer added that a student who engages in premarital sex “cannot continue at the yeshiva.”<br /><br />“We’re sensitive to the challenges that these things represent,” Linzer said. “At the time of the Talmud, most people were married at the time of 14 or 16.”<br /><br />http://www.forward.com/articles/137147/Shades of Grayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03029177164921795725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-60417539003386404402011-05-15T10:08:46.736-04:002011-05-15T10:08:46.736-04:00For another book that discusses Christian dating, ...For another book that discusses Christian dating, you might want to read "The Unlikely Disciple: A Sinner's Semester at America's Holiest University" by Kevin Roose. It's about his semester at Liberty University.Joshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06642569526668156286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-86834178056404526552011-05-15T09:59:34.057-04:002011-05-15T09:59:34.057-04:00Be sure to also check out his sequel to "I Ki...Be sure to also check out his sequel to "I Kissed Dating Goodbye", "Boy Meets Girl" about how to proceed when you are ready for marriage and to start dating. I was also blown away by the way that he arrives at the concepts of shomer negiah and yichud on his own and how logically and clearly he explains the benefits to them. I've shared his books with countless friends, and as long as you don't mind skipping lots of New Testament quotations, you'll find them a worthwhile read.Primum Non Nocerehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01928564781704168333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-59379658289872462492011-05-14T23:44:37.419-04:002011-05-14T23:44:37.419-04:00How old is the author? Beautiful post, I quite agr...How old is the author? Beautiful post, I quite agreeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-75456452228136614202011-05-14T23:34:36.994-04:002011-05-14T23:34:36.994-04:00this sounds like a good book. i plan on reading it...this sounds like a good book. i plan on reading it. thanks for sharing.frum single femalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592899863773572708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12970718.post-30080445194794632852011-05-14T23:27:55.102-04:002011-05-14T23:27:55.102-04:00I wish more people would read that -- and not only...I wish more people would read that -- and not only single people, but the married ones who look at us incredulously when we say that we're actually not upset that we're single. So many married people have tried making me feel like being single is the biggest tragedy and that my main goal should be getting married. I think it's equally important to first figure out who you are and where you're going in life, and I don't like this whole rush to get people married off to each other before they've even had a chance to get to know themselves.inkstainedhandshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09981049559995351307noreply@blogger.com